Let our roots grow down deeply in Him and draw up nourishment from Him seeing that we go on growing in the Lord, and becoming strong and vigorous in the truth we were taught.
Colossians 2:7

Brian is patient, Margo is kind. Brian does not envy, Margo does not boast, Brian is not proud. Margo does not dishonor others, Brian is not self-seeking, Margo is not easily angered, Brian keeps no record of wrongs. Margo does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Brian always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Colossians 3:12-15

Being committed for the long haul. Love is a decision.

Seeking to understand and embrace each other’s differences.

We should help others do what is right and build them up in the Lord. For even Christ didn’t live to please himself.
Romans 16:2-3

Nevertheless, in the Lord, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman.1 Corinthians 11:11

Inviting God to continually rule over your relationship.

Bottom Line

1. Become the right person.
2. Walk in unconditional love.
3. Fix your hope on Jesus, seeking to please Him through this relationship.
4. Repeat steps 1-3…until death do you part.

Action Steps

• Take some time and look back and see how small your love once was…and how faithful God has been through the years. Journal it.
• Ask yourself, are all my expectations in Christ alone? Or do I expect my spouse (kids, career, friends, family, ministry, hobbies) to make me happy?
• Be in prayer, asking God for some meaningful ways to nurture and deepen your emotional, spiritual, and physical connection in your relationship. Then, follow through with your spouse.
• Do you know your spouse’s love language? Read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Enjoy a cup of coffee together and share what you’ve learned.
• If you’re between a rock and a hard place, see a Christian Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) to help shed grace and truth in your marriage.